There is more to this week’s Savage Love. To read the entire column, go to Savage.Love. I’m a gay Black man in my early 30s. When I was a teen, I was called fat and ugly by family and friends.

Is the caller next? Here’s the kind of pragmatic question and answer you’ve come to expect from the Savage Lovecast: Is it safe to douche with non-potable water? On the Magnum, folks have ...